Sometimes when things are not going your way you may decide to curl up in a corner and have a good pity-party. Or, you may complain to others how unfair life is, or ruminate on all the hurt you suffered and the many ways you have been victimized. You would most likely stay in victim mode for a while, but it should be a short while. If you follow the tips below, you just may end up feeling like a victor and not a victim.
- Let it go. Whatever it is that hurt you – a person’s actions or your own bad choices – make the decision to let it go. Forgive the person who hurt you. The sooner you do that the sooner you will stop reliving the hurt and all the details, and your mind will be free to begin working on new possibilities.
- Forgive yourself. Sometimes you may find it easier to forgive someone else — especially if that person is not in close proximity— than to forgive yourself. You may tell yourself, “I deserved it.” No, you didn’t. You may have had a small part to play in the pain you suffered, but that does not give anyone the right to take advantage of you. (See #5)
- Acknowledge your pain. Talk it over with someone — a trusted friend, a therapist, or even the person who hurt you. Getting it out of your system is another way of letting go. You can write in your journal, or write a letter to the person or yourself and not mail it.
- Be honest with yourself. Sometimes the pain we experience is not always the total fault of someone else or of circumstances beyond your control. As you write in your journal or your letter, examine the part you played in bringing on that hurt. Did you set yourself up for the person to hurt you? What could you have done differently? Being honest will help you avoid such situations in the future.
- Take one day at a time. You cannot forget the past. You would wish you could erase those horrible memories, but unfortunately, you can’t. Therefore, the best thing you can do is to take one day at a time. When your mind harks back to the past, linger there only for a moment, then tell yourself, “Today is a new day. God is in charge of my life today and forever. The past is gone.”
All of this may sound easier said than done, but it takes work. It takes commitment to practice letting go, forgiving yourself and others, being honest with yourself and living in the present. And what does this have to do with your diabetes? Well, the victim mentality can lead to stress, which can lead to depression, which can lead to diabetes. The good news is that diabetes and depression can be treated together. Fill out the form below.
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